Be Mad

Do you ever feel like you just aren’t enough sometimes? That nagging voice in your head that makes it seem like you will always be inadequate? Lets talk about it, and let me give you 10 tips on how to kick the shit out of that voice. 

1. Have some f*#@$*# confidence in what you are doing. 

2. Tell that voice to go straight to hell. Think about that voice, think about where it came from, think about your childhood. When and how did self consciousness begin to creep in?

3. Take it a little further, go back to a memory where you were vulnerable and you shared something with someone that you wanted support, encouragement and validation from and instead you were met with criticism and rejection. Now cuss them the f#*$ out. Even if its just in your head, and then tell your former self- you got this, get up girl! Don’t you dare internalize that bullshit. Instead be mad, be so mad you prove them all wrong. Be mad that they felt they had any right or held any power over you, sit in that anger and feel it. Harness it and let it light the fire of believing in yourself again. See that lie for what it was. 

4. Don’t share shit with negative people. They don’t deserve it and they are like a wet blanket on the fire of your dreams. Stop wasting your time. 

5. Tell yourself every.single.fn.day that you can do what you are called to do. You can, and you will, and you are more than capable, even if you are terrified. Fear has nothing to do with your greatness. Its a byproduct of the bullshit you’ve been fed, chew it up and spit it out. 

6. Don’t you dare look at other people and feel less than. Never. Not ever. No one can be you, the intricacies in which you were created. No one can do, or be, or see things exactly like you can. You are a masterpiece. Put those blinders on, keep your head down, and keep plowing towards YOUR destiny. 

7. Replace that negative voice that recites all your failures with all the good you have done, every time. I promise its bigger. 

8. Stop looking for approval from people that will never give it to you. You may never be able to convince them, even though you may never stop wanting it, and that’s ok. It’s not your job. Move on, and as my husband tells my kids “I can show you better than I can tell you.” 

9. Surround yourself with people that light you up, people that make you feel like a f’n stallion when you are around them. Your hype queens, your “we ride at dawn” people, your “you’re not gonna talk about my friend like that” people.  

10. And lastly, one of the most important tips, listen closely, fuuuuuuuuucccck the haters. I said that. The ones that never believed in you, understood you, underestimated you. Let them be miserable, without any company. 

I can’t wait to see what you are gonna do!!!

With so much love!